One of the things I'm passionate about is reducing the stigma of disorganization. Being organized is a skill like any other - it's just easier for some to learn than for others. Having a tougher time getting organized, or needing some help, doesn't make you a bad person.
One of the best ways to reduce any stigma is to talk about the subject openly.
So, let's talk about the two major types of disorganization: Situational Disorganization and Chronic Disorganization.
Situational Disorganization (SD)
Usually, SD happens after a major life transition. You're a pretty organized person, and then you move, or you get a new job, or you get married, or you get divorced, or you lose a loved one. That event throws your usual organizing systems for a loop. It can feel impossible to get back on track.
If this sounds familiar to you, please know that you can get organized again! Being disorganized after a major change happens to everybody - you are not alone, believe me. Give yourself a break, and a little time to recover. Then, maybe with a little help, you can move back toward your old, organized self.
Chronic Disorganization (CD)
Just like it sounds, CD usually happens throughout your life. You probably think of yourself as "messy" or that you "just can't get organized." You've probably tried a bunch of different organizing methods, and none of them worked for you. And now you think the problem is you.
Being chronically disorganized does not mean that you are "dumb" or "bad" or "can't get it together."
What it means is that you probably think in a different way. You may also have complicating factors like AD/HD, a learning disability, chronic anxiety or depression, or chronic pain. Conventional, off-the-shelf organizing methods aren't going to work for you. You are unique!
You may benefit from finding a local support group, or a coach, therapist, or professional organizer who specializes in CD. The bottom line is that you will probably have to work a little harder to find an individualized organizing approach that will work for you.